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Blue Water Bound
Our Island Hopping Honeymoon
Jamie Hood
08/26/2011, San Juan Islands, Washington

"This is the best honeymoon we could possibly have", Kevin said every day. We worked as a team, choosing and planning where to go and how to get there. Together, we spent our days listening to the forecast, reading the tide and current charts, comparing harbors and bays, making meals, catching our food, exploring on water and land, pleasure reading, fishing, and napping. We balanced our time on and off the boat. We learned together and did things for the first time together. We only had to check the time to know when to take advantage of currents and tides. The sunset told us when to go to bed. Our bodies told us when to wake up. We had to turn on our phones to remember what day of the week it was. We listened to each other with clarity and without distraction. The two weeks flew.

As our honeymoon was coming to an end and we were making our way back to Seattle, I thought about how I didn't want to stop having the connection and the feeling of being on our honeymoon. I want to create that honeymoon feeling in our life no matter when it is or where we are. I want to bring teamwork, playfulness, spontaneity, calmness, adventure and physical touch into our structured, busy, city lives. I want to be on our honeymoon forever.


Thoughts & Philosophies
Staying Connected at Sea
Jamie
05/19/2010

Our boat won't sail itself to a distant destination. Kevin and I will have to take shifts to get there. During 'Round Whidbey, WINSA's annual race around Whidbey Island, a 30 hour race, Kevin and I were on the same shift. Sailing during the day was peaceful and playful. We sang, ate good food, played word games, talked about the race and gave each other back rubs. The wind was steady, the sun was shining and currents complimented our course.

We started shifts with the crew of 6 after dinner. Kevin and I were the first to rest. After our 2 hour break, which ended up being about 40 minutes of actual sleep, my eyes were tired and I wanted more sleep. Taking over for the opposite shift, I was frustrated with the subtle breeze and conflicting currents that seem to be a tradition of the island's south tip during this race each year. Once night fell, the wind dropped and the cold set in, our time sailing together on the same shift wasn't as romantic and carefree anymore. It was cold and frustrating. When we're blue water sailing, it will be colder. When we're blue water sailing, we will be ships passing in the night, keeping opposite shifts to sail the boat.

Colder; I can handle with better gear. Frustrating; that will change when the focus isn't on racing and trying to beat other boats. The part I'm apprehensive about is the ships passing in the night part. I want to go on this blue water trip to be with Kevin, not pass buy him between shifts.

I want to sail together and be together. I want it to be romantic and carefree as much and as often as possible. Anyone have ideas on how to stay connected when cruising?
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Thoughts & Philosophies
06/15/2010 | Ray and Sandy Klatt
Since your have time...you could make a tape while the other one sleeps...then on their shift they could play the tape...or even a video...or you could just never sleep again...ha! As a therapist, (post hoc) I can tell you that one of the biggest killers of relationships is not getting enough time to miss (and therefore appreciate) the other. When you get older you'll probably want that time alone...but I do remember how it was for me when I was younger....long periods of time apart were hell...especially if the going gets tough. Some of this stuff requires real sacrifice to validate the trip but I'll save that for existential lecture # 238...ha! You guys are going to have so much fun! Meantime...old guy signing off here.
11/09/2010 | John Allison
Hi,
You need not worry I am sure you'll realise a cruise is not a race, and you can adjust the few watches you need to keep to maximise time together.
Sue and I spent a year in 20076 cruising Turkey to Caribbean and despite some long legs, the reality was the longest period which did require watches was the Atlantic (16 days). We took a good pal with us to give an extra set of hands without adding lots to the crsuising inventory - and it was a great trip.
Most times the max we'd sail non stop was maybe 3 days - and even then we'd sail together daylight hours. Sue tended to cook up an evening meal which we'd share beofre 9 pm, then I'd hit the sack until 1 am. Sue would wake me with chocolate and a cuddle for her, and strong black coffee for me, and I'd see the night through until daybreak. A early morning snooze usually saw me join Sue for midmorning - and we'd share the days together. It works fine as a regime for maintaining our romance and fact are if Sue was not enjoying ti

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